10. The past (last) 10 years have been the happiest and most fulfilling (successful) of his life.
III. Cloze
There are ten blanks in the following passage. Read the passage ea fully and choose the best answer front the four chokes given below the passage.
be at one’s prime time
In the past, young people in America usually lived with their parents until they got married. Today, some still 1 do. Yet most young people live (lead) a more independent life. They have a job. They travel. They rent or own their own apartment or house. They wait longer to get married. 2 While (they were) waiting, they date (go dating). [to find oneself=to find the proper place for oneself]
Often a friend will plan a meeting between two unmarried people who do not know 3 one another. This is called a \ 4 blind. They just have never seen each other. [be in the darkness]
However, most unmarried people have to find their own 5 dates. Many go to public eating, drinking or dancing places. Every city in America has them. Some places are 6 popular with young people. Others are for older people.
Many Americans want to go where they are sure they can meet people with similar 7 interests. For example, they may go to a bookstore. Some bookstores in America now serve coffee and food. Many 8 offer special programs (project) and social activities for single people. Other singles join health clubs to exercise and to meet people. 9 Or, they may join groups for people who like to take long walks or watch birds. When they 10 get along well enough, they may decide to spend the rest of their lives together. 1. A. are B. hold C. do D. go 2. A. While wait B. While waiting C. When waited D. When to wait 3. A. each time B. one by one C. one another D. the other 4. A. blind B. dumb C. foolish D. lame 5. A. mates B. couple C. colleagues D. dates 6. A. potential B. popular C. populous D. positive 7. A. intensity B. intention C. interests D. interaction 8. A. offer B. award C. give D. rent 9. A. Too B. However C. Or D. So 10. A. get off B. get along C. live through D. live up to
IV. Translation
Put the following parts into Chinese.
1. A fulfilling marriage begins when two people make time together their No. 1 propriety. If we hope to find love, we must first find time for loving.
当两个人都把抽时间多聚在一起当成各自的第一要事，一个美满的婚姻才会开始。如果我们希望去寻找爱，首先我们必须找时间去爱。
2. Unfortunately, current psychology rests on the model of the independent ego. To make a
lasting marriage we have to overcome self-centeredness. We must go beyond what psychologist Abraham Maslow called \to \We have to learn to put time where love is.
令人遗憾的是，目前心理学都注重独立的自我模式。要使婚姻持久，我们就必须克服以自我为中心。我们必须超越亚伯拉罕?马斯洛声称的“自我实现”，而要“共同实现”。我们要学会把时间放在爱上。
3. How we see our partners often depends more on how we are than how they are. Husbands and wives are not audience, but participant observers in each other's live.
我们如何看待对方通常更多地取决于我们而不是他们。丈夫和妻子不是观众，而是相互生活中的参与者和观察者。
4. This argument illustrates how some people spend their marriages struggling to change a spouse's mind. People in lasting-love marriages begin with the premise that there are many realities. They learn to accept different points of view.
这一争吵表明一些人如何把婚姻耗费在努力改变对方的想法上面。在爱情持久的婚姻中，人们的出发点是：婚姻有许多现实问题，他们要学着去接受不同的观点。
5 As one husband told me, \out for No. 2. If you fight for yourself, only you can win. When you fight for your marriage, you both win.\
正如一位丈夫告诉我的：“俗话说要争先做主。现在我们学会了退让一步当第二。如果你为自己奋斗，成功的仅仅是你自己。当你为自己的婚姻而奋斗时,你们就会双赢。”
6. There is a powerful healing energy that emanates from loving. Lasting love can learn to sense it, send it and make it grow. We are energized by love if we put our energy into loving.
爱能释放出强大的治愈能量。持久的爱知道去感悟，去给予，使这份爱成长壮大。如果我们把精力投入爱，我们就能从爱中汲取力量。
7. Marriage is designed primarily for giving rather than taking. It is meant to be a permanent union of two unselfish people.
婚姻的本质是给予而不是索取。它应该是两个无私个体的永久结合。
V. Oral Practice and Discussion
1. What are the laws for lasting and loving relationship discovered by the author? 2. What are the causes of marriage problems in the modern society? 3. How do you understand the advice \
4. To solve the marriage problems mentioned in the text, what are your proposals other than those given by the author?
5. Do you believe love can be romantic while marriage has to be practical? Why?
VOCABULARY ITEMS
1. therapist: n. one who specializes in the provision of a particular therapy临床医生; doctor-.surgeon->specialist
2. unfulfilled: adj. unhappy or unsatisfactory令人不快的，令人不满意的; be full of sth./ fill sth. with sth. else/ fulfill=accomplish/ achieve->:accomplishmen/ achievement
3. grieve: v. to cause to be sorrowful; distress伤心，悲痛; grief (n.)
4. lament: v. to regret deeply; express grief for or about痛惜，悔恨，惋惜; layman/ green hand 5. anniversary: n. the annually recurring date of a past event, especially one of historical, national, or personal importance周年纪念; annual (adj.)
6. ego: n. the self, especially as distinct from the world and other selves;自我，尤指不同于世界和其他个体; egoism (n.)
7. self-actualization: n. 自我实现; actualize->realize
8. bang: v. to strike heavily and often repeatedly; bump重击，沉重并且通常是反复地打击；撞击; bumper
9. sacred: adj. made or declared holy神圣的
10. clipboard: n. a small writing board with a spring dip at the top for holding papers or a writing pad写字板，剪贴板
11. doomsayer: n. one who predicts calamity (danger) at every opportunity灾难预言者; doom’s book; dome
12. intravenous: adj. within or administered (inject) into a vein静脉的
13. diagnosis: n. the act or process of identifying or determining the nature and cause of a disease or injury诊断; diagnose; diameter
14. verdict: n. an expressed conclusion; a judgment or an opinion定论，裁决; verify (vt.) 15. stud: n. a male animal that is kept for breeding; a man regarded as virile and sexually active留种的雄畜，性欲旺盛的男子
16. spud: n. a potato土豆 17. drudge: n. a person who does tedious, menial, or unpleasant work苦力; drudgery 18. infantile: adj. a lack of maturity; extremely childish幼稚的，孩子气的; baby->babe
19. infatuation: n. a foolish, unreasoning, or extravagant passion or attraction愚蠢的，非理性的或过分的激情或迷恋
20. gorgeous: adj. dazzlingly beautiful or magnificent眩目艳丽的; pretty 21. perspective: n. a point of view of sth.观点; perceive: understand
22. premise: n. a statement or idea on which reasoning is based前提; be based on sth. else. The film is based on (adapted from) a novel of the same title.
23. therapist: n. one who specializes in the provision of a particular therapy临床医生 24. emanate: v. to come or send forth发出，散发; e-: out
25. permanent: adj. lasting or remaining without essential change永久的
26. rest on: to be directed on or fall on停留，基于; arrest: have a rest; to rest for a while.; the rest of one’s life
27. couch potato: person who loves to watch TV programs and becomes fat without enough physical exercise爱看电视而不愿意运动的胖人; coach 28. a pain in the neck: （美俚）讨厌的家伙/任务; Noise is a nuisance.
Notes Abraham Maslow: American psychologist, famous for his concept of a hierarchy of needs; hierarchical needs. Jungle law
READING SELECTION B
Why We Love Who We love
By Joyce Brothers
[1] Have you ever known a married couple that just didn't seem as though they should fit together -- yet they are both happy in the marriage, and you can't figure out why? I know of one couple: He is a burly ex-athlete. Meanwhile, his wife is petite, quiet and a complete homebody. She doesn't even go out to dinner.
[2] What mysterious force drives us into the arms of one person, while pushing us away from another who might appear equally desirable to any unbiased observer?
[3] One of the many factors influencing our idea of the perfect mate, one of the most telling, according to John Money, professor emeritus of medical psychology and pediatrics at Johns Hopkins University, is what he calls our “lovemap” -- a group of messages encoded in our brains that describes our likes and dislikes. It shows our preferences in hair and eye color, in voice, smell, body build. It also records the kind of personality that appeals to us, whether it's the warm and friendly type or the strong, silent type.
[4] In short, we fall for and pursue those people who most clearly fit our lovemap. And this lovemap is largely determined in childhood. By age eight, the pattern for our ideal mate has already begun to float around in our brains.
[5] When we're little, our mother is the center of our attention, and we are the center of hers. So our mother's characteristics leave an indelible impression, we are forever attracted to people with her facial features, body type, personality, even sense of humor. If our mother was warm and giving, as adults we tend to be attracted to people who are warm and giving. If our mother was strong and even-tempered, we are going to be attracted to a fair-minded strength in our mates.
[6] The mother has an additional influence on her sons: she not only gives them clues to what they will find attractive in a mate, but also affects how they feel about women in general. So if she is warm and nice, her sons are going to think that's the way women are. They will likely grow up warm and responsive lovers and also be cooperative around the house.
[7] Conversely, a mother who has a depressive personality, and is sometimes friendly but then suddenly turns cold and rejecting, may raise a man who becomes a dance-away lover. Because he's been so scared about love from his mother, he is afraid of commitment and may pull away from a girlfriend for this reason.
[8] While the mother determines in large part what qualities attract us in a mate, it’s the father -- the first male in our lives -- who influences how we relate to the opposite sex. Fathers have an enormous effect on their children's personalities and chances of marital happiness.
[9] Just as mothers influence their son's general feelings toward women, fathers influence their daughter's general feelings about men. If a father lavishes praise on his daughter and demonstrates that she is a worthwhile person, she'll feel very good about herself in relation to men. But if the father is cold, critical or absent, the daughter will tend to feel she's not very lovable or attractive.
[10] What about opposites? Are they really attracted to each other? Yes and no. In many ways we want a mirror image of ourselves. Physically attractive people, for example, are usually drawn to a partner who's equally attractive.
[11] In addition, most of us grow up with people of similar social circumstances. We hang around with people in the same town; our friends have about the same educational backgrounds and career goals. We tend to be most comfortable with these people, and therefore we tend to link up with others whose families are often much like our own.
[12] However, there are instances where people of different social backgrounds end up getting married and being extremely happy. I know of one man, a factory worker from a traditional Irish family, who fell in love with an African-American Baptist. When they got married, their friends and relatives predicted a quick failure. But 25 years later, the marriage is still strong.
[131 Is there such a thing as \what happens in that instant is the couple probably discovers a unique something they have in common. It could be something as mundane as they both were reading the same book or were born in the same town. At the same time they recognize some trait in the other that complements their own personality.
[14] I happen to be one of those who was struck by the magic wand. Milt and I were married for 39 years, until his death in 1989. And all that time we experienced a love called a 'feeling of fusion, of oneness\
Reading Comprehension
Answer the following questions ur complete the following statements.
1. The author chooses a couple of a burly man and a petite woman as an example _____. A. to show the mysterious force of love B. to illustrate a happy marriage
C. to support the idea of an unbiased observer D. to criticize the view of an unbiased observer
2. According to the text, a lovemap probably _____. A. determines whether a marriage will last long B. is personal preference imprinted in our minds C. records what kind of personality we have D. is most people's idea of the perfect mate
3. Which of the following statements is true according to the author's description of lovemap? A. The messages in our lovemap are inherited.
B. Lovemap will determine how happy we are in a marriage. C. Our lovemap develops in the early phase of our life. D. Lovemap won't develop fully until we grow up.
4. The word \A. the most important B. able to last longer
C. irreplaceable or unique D. irremovable or inerasable
5. According to the text, a son will grow up cooperative in the house if _____. A. his lovemap is not damaged
B. his mother is a warm and nice women C. he feels good about woman in general D. his mother has additional influence on him
6. A dance-away lover probably means one who _____. A. was deeply hurt by his mother when he was a kid B. is cold and rejecting in depressive mood
C. may turn away from his girlfriend out of fear of commitment