?Dr. and Mrs. Karl?s
?Kind invitation for dinner
?On Monday, the fifteenth of August ?At seven o?clock.
?If a great many people are invited, it is not necessary to reply to the invitation unless it
bears the letters “R.S.V.P.”
?Whenever the letters “R.S.V.P.” appear at the bottom of an invitation card, it is absolutely necessary to reply. These letters are the initials of some French words “Repondez s?il vous plait”, which means, “You respond it, please.”
?请根据下列内容分别起草正式英文邀请函以及回复函的接受与婉谢各一份。 ?威廉.史密斯教授及夫人：
? 谨订于二00六年五月一日星期一下午八时在东莞宾馆举行五一国际劳动节庆祝会
? 恭请光临
? 市长刘志庚及夫人敬约 INTRODUCTIONS说明，介绍 ?You should introduce ?A man to a woman
?A younger person to an older person
?An unmarried woman to a married woman
?An unimportant person to an important person of the same sex ?Children to adults
?One more point about “Sir”and “Madam”.They are not followed by either the first names or the last names.
?The single form of “Sir”or “Madam”is generally addressed to those who have comparatively higher positions,status or ranks. ENTERTAINING TO DINNER娱乐性的共进晚餐 ?1.Dinner
?Dinner is classified as formal dinner and informal dinner. ?2.Reception
?A reception is more flexible usually provided with some food and soft beverage. ?A buffet dinner ?A Cocktail party ?3.Tea Party
?The Order of Seats Around a Table (page 34) EVENING RECREATION晚间娱乐
?Hosts often arrange some evening entertainments for their guests in external activities. Hats should be taken off after sitting, but ladies can enter there with their hats or overcoats on.
?If you wish to dance （跳舞）with a certain lady, go to her, bow, and say: “May I have the pleasure of a dance?” If it is a formal dance with programs, she will tell you which dance she will have with you; if there are no programs she will either rise and dance with you, or she may say, “I have this dance taken.” or “I?m sorry, I am not dancing this dance.”
?Do not expect a lady whom you have engaged in advance for a dance to make any
attempt to find you. It is her part to remain seated until you find her. Bow and say, “ I believe this is my dance.”
?At the end of a dance, thank your partner, but do not leave her until you have conducted her to a seat .
?If you are introduced to a lady in the party, you must ask her fro a dance.
?If you accompany a lady to a home dance, after she has put her wraps in the cloakroom you should take her first to greet the hostess, then dance the first dance with her. At refreshment time you must see that she gets refreshments. And finally, dance the last dance with her.
?Sometime during the evening, your hostess, the daughter of the hostess, and any guest of honors should all be asked by you to dance. WELCOMES AND FAREWELLS欢迎和告别
?Welcome and send-off of guests are common ceremonies in external activities. Normally, the receptionists should reach the station or airport before the arrival of the foreign guest so as not to let the guests wait. So it is very important to wait for the guests before their arrival.
?As soon as the guests reach the destination, they are normally taken to the guest house. It?s thoughtful not to arrange for them some prompt activities so as to let them have a little time to rest and wash their hands after a long trip.
?It is also important to make good arrangements for the accommodation of guest. Attention should be paid to the guests? dining habits and customs. CHAPTER Ⅳ
MANNERS IN DIFFERENT SITUATIONS礼仪,在不同的情况
?Courtesy differs in various situations, so does it in external activities. Being personnel in foreign work, they must be familiar with and master the proprieties of various occasions as much as they possibly can so as to raise the efficiency of work and enable social contact.
EATING OUT外出就餐
?Restaurants in large cities vary greatly in price.
?If you are going to a restaurant for dinner,it is usually a good idea to telephone for a reservation.
?If you order meat in a restaurant, you will usually be asked by the waiter how you want it, rare, medium,or well done. “Rare”is not thoroughly cooked: the meat will be pink inside. “Well done”is usually very well cooked.
?When you order coffee, you may be asked “regular?”This means, “Do you want a lot of cream in it?”If not, ask for “black”( no cream) or “ dark ”( meaning a small amount of cream .)
?An important question about eating out, at the beginning, is who pays for the meal.
SMALL TALKS闲谈，聊天
?Small talk means that people chat freely to each other on informal occasions.
?Many Westerners, especially Americans find silence uncomfortable. During a buffet or at a table, therefore, having proper small talk with people can enhance the friendly atmosphere.
GUESTS AT HOME（邀请到家）
?Hosts sometimes invite guests to their houses. Sometimes, Chinese think it?s more reputable and courteous to spend money for their guests in a restaurant or hotel rather than to invite them to their homes.
?But it?s quite opposite for the western people.
?They think it seems closer and more friendly to bring guests home and cook by themselves than to treat them in a restaurant or public house.
?In the West, people are particular about when to arrive and leave, what to speak about and how to behave at table when they are invited to someone?s house.
?It is not good as well to arrive too early. After the meal is over it is better for a guest not to leave for at least half an hour. When leaving any kind of a party, a guest always expresses his appreciation to the hostess.
HOW TO HANDLE A KNIFE AND FORK如何处理一副刀叉吗
?Europeans generally hold the knife in the right hand, the fork in the left, and manage the knife and fork with both hands.
They keep their knife and fork in their hands until they have finished eating.
?But an American, on the other hand,may use just one hand whenever possible and keep the other hand on the lap.
?When the plate is empty, Americans place the knife across the back right hand edge of the plate and the fork beside it with the points upwards. In no case should one rest the knife or fork with one end on the table. TABLE MANNERS饭桌礼仪
?It is not for the simple satisfaction of hunger to have a meal in a social context. When you are invited to dinner, you will discover that people are more interested in the persons and conversation at the table than in the meal itself.
?When the hostess or host takes up the table napkin, it hints that the meal begins. ?If someone passes food around, he will pass in the dish at your left hand so that you can conveniently serve yourself with you right hand. Never serve yourself while the dish is on your right. Eating speed is also one or the table manners.
?When eating at someone?s house, it is usually better for a guest to take a small amount from each dish rather than make the hostess feel that the does not like her food, or that he is a person hard to please.
?There is not a round revolving plate on a Western dinning table. There is usually no rice in a western style meal but bread.
?At a western table, fruit can not be eaten with hands. ?Do not rub the tableware on the table with a napkin. ?Do not put too much food in your mouth at a time. ?Do not make any noise when you are eating.
?Be sure your lips are not greasy when you drink from your glass.
?Do not place too much on your plate at the first time of getting food and add after you finish it.
?Do not clean your teeth at the table.
HOTEL SERVICE 酒店服务
?Hotel service is the “ courtesy industry ”.
中国人民大学国际关系学院外交学系主任 ? 金正昆教授 ? 商务礼仪 ?1． 概述 2、形象、素质 ?3、 西装（上） 4、西装（下） ?5、职业女装 6、仪容仪态 ?7、演讲、口才 8、商务邀约 ?9、热情有度 10、不宜过谦 ?11、不宜先为 12、座次排列 ?13、女士优先 14、爱护环境 ?15、保护动物 16、外宾接待 ?17、出国旅行 18、应付媒体 ?19、外交特权 20、外事纪律
?中国人民大学国际关系学院外交学系主任 ? 金正昆教授 ? 国际礼仪 ?1． 概述 2、遵守惯例 ?3、入乡随俗 4、关注形象 ?5、不亢不卑 6、维护秩序 ?7、信守约定 8、尊重隐私 ?9、热情有度 10、不宜过谦 ?11、不宜先为 12、座次排列 ?13、女士优先 14、爱护环境 ?15、保护动物 16、外宾接待 ?17、出国旅行 18、应付媒体 ?19、外交特权 20、外事纪律
?We believe in old fashioned and good manners and politeness. Practice these till they second nature---till you are courteous automatically. ?Remember:
?Win a battle with a guest, and lose a customer. ?A smile costs nothing, but it enriches the receiver. THANKS AND APOLOGIES
?In many foreign governmental offices, corporation departments, or even in the home, something like, “ Would you please finish this work as soon as possible? ”or “ Excuse me, please move the chair over.”can be often heard while bosses or sometimes seniors tell their clerks, workers or juniors to do something.
As a matter of fact, all these can be regarded as a kind of order, or they are changed with a mild tone and sound very polite, The clerks, workers or juniors cannot dare to give the cold shoulder after they receive the assignments. As compared with some rude forms of commands, those are much easier accepted and with better effect.
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?The children from very young in many countries are required to be courteous, Abigail
in De Pere, Wisconsin was a girl under three years old. When she asked her mom for candies at home, her mother said to her: “ Wait, Abby. Do you know what the magical word is when you ask for something. ” “ Yes, Mommy. The magical word is ?please?, please give me some candies, mommy. Please, Please!”, answered Abby soon.
?“ Thank you ”means that you appreciate what someone has done for you, very often very small and most ordinary things. So people all day long.
?As the Chinese customs are somewhat different, some Chinese newcomers in a foreign country may appear not polite enough. Very often they neglect to express thanks for the small favors that others have done them.
?When you are thanked for passing or handing something to someone or for some small favor, it is not necessary to say anything; a smile and a slight inclination of the head are sufficient.
?In answer to thanks for some service you have rendered, say: “ That?s all right,” “ You?re welcome,” “ It?s my pleasure.” or “ Don?t mention it.”
?In answer to thanks for some gift, say, “I am glad you like it ”; or “ I am so glad if it gives you pleasure.”
?In answer to thanks from a departing guest, you may say, “ I am so glad you were able to come ”; or “ I am so glad you enjoyed the evening ”or “ It was a pleasure to have you ”etc.
?When you are late for an appointment, you should say, “ Excuse me for coming late ”or “ Excuse my coming later .”
LENDING AND BORROWING 借和贷
?“Mutual help to make up what the other lacks” is a traditional virtue between Chinese neighbors. Offering some assistance as much as one can when others lack something is a key to enhance human relationship.
?Those who are assisted must treasure others? kindness and friendship, take much care of others? property so that good credit can be established.
?Things borrowed in the West are definitely expected to be returned, whether it be fifty dollars or merely a friend?s pencil, and someone is considered dishonest if he does not do so, or unreliable if he returns them long after the time he has promised to return them. Moreover, it is expected that the article borrowed will be returned in as good condition as when lent.
?Borrowing is not so prevalent in the West as in the East.
?In the play of “ Hamlet”, Lord Chamberlain Polonium gives his son Layettes a few precepts and says:
?“Neither a borrower not a lender be; ?For loan oft loses both itself and friend;
?And borrowing dulls the edge of husbandry.” PRESENTING GIFTS
?Presenting gifts is one of the popular social activities both inside and outside China and also a kind of material taken showing one?s regards. It is neither to satisfy someone?s personal desire not to show off one?s affluence,
?But to express one?s congratulations, condolences, thanks and departure moods. As the saying goes: “A gift is trifling but the feeling is profound.” Therefore, while choosing